Isolation-- defined as the state of
being alone. Isolation rarely correlates with your relationship with
your family. However, Linda felt the isolation from the hearts of her parents.
She was facing the isolation most children of immigrant parents go
through when balancing their two cultures. Her cultures included her parent's
Cambodia roots and the American culture. Her parents were escaping
the Cambodia communist leader, Khmer Rouge, pledge to return the
country to a Communist Peasant farm society. He would kill anyone that he
believed to be to "west". As a result, the country's most
educated men and women fled to the United States. Linda's parents felt that
holding on to their culture was the best way to hold on to
their family's heritage. They lost everything: their home, their
loved ones and the most important part of their culture- respect. Her parents
entered a society that doesn't respect the working class. Linda speculated that
her parent constantly humiliation about working as janitors furthered their
desire to instill traditional values in their children.
Nevertheless, Linda faced a constant
coalition of cultures. The boiling point
happened when she started dating someone at end of her senior year. Her parents
felt that it was inappropriate for a Cambodia girl to date an American boy. The
verbal abuse was unleashed! She was ridiculed by her parents, cousin and
extended family about her lack of Cambodia pride. Her parents couldn't deal
with the possibility of non-Cambodia guy marring their daughter; especially,
when he would never be able to understand their traditions. In retaliation, her
parents never sent in her college applications. They believed that sending
their daughter would further loosen their grasp on her.
Linda was forced into the community
college system. Unfortunately, her parents never gave her the money to go to
school, a ride or their emotional support. Linda spent the summer before
freshman year working 50 hours a week. Finally, by the end of the summer she
saved enough money to pay for a beat up Toyota and tuition. The moment her parents realized that they couldn't stop her from going to school they demanded she pay rent. They charged an 18
year old girl working a minimal wage job $750 plus food. Linda didn’t give up!
She found a way around every challenge they through at her. Although it took
Linda three years to transfer, she is only a semester away from entering Cal
State Long Beach’s Nursing program. She taught me the love my parents had for
me. They always found a way to make my dreams come true at the expense of their
own. Those types of parents are rare to come by. I never understood why
everyone said I was lucky to have my parents till I meet Linda. Furthermore, the
challenges Linda faced made her the person she is today. She learned that her
love of education can overcome anything.
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