1) A career that makes you happy, and will support you comfortably.
2) A commitment to a healthy intimate relationship with another healthy adult.
3) A physical discipline for daily practice.
You can get specific about those to suit yourself, of course.
Once you've got them shaped up to your liking, write them down, and tape them up near your sleeping area. Ideally, the list would be the first thing you see when you wake up and the last thing you see when falling asleep. Read them aloud, using your voice, when you wake up and right before you go to sleep. Doing this programs your subconscious mind towards these goals, giving you an unconscious drive towards them.
Try not to get frustrated at the slow pace of progress. There is no way to accomplish our dreams overnight. Slow, steady effort will eventually prevail. Commit to putting in your effort to accomplish 1% of your goals, in each area, per week. Just enough so that you can say you are 1% further along in your career path, 1% better at being an ideal life partner, 1% stronger and more fit this week than you were last week. And commit to another 1% next week, and the next. At the rate of 1% per week, we can accomplish greatness.
The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands, and then work outward from there.
- Robert M. Pirsig